Pastor Gardner wrote this on his blog, and I thought it contained some very good lessons for marriage people.
Genesis 16:5 And Sarai said unto Abram, My wrong be upon thee: I have given my maid into thy bosom; and when she saw that she had conceived, I was despised in her eyes: the LORD judge between me and thee.
Sarai had offered her maid to Abram to have a child with her. Once Abram agreed with his wife and went into Hagar it started a chain of events that deeply wounded his wife. Sarai most likely hoped that Hagar would not have children proving that it was Abram that couldn’t have children but then she realized that she was the one that had the problem. She was embarrassed.
Not only was she embarrassed but she was angry and wanted Hagar gone.
I think that there are some lessons here for husbands. Don’t always believe everything your wife says! I think that Sarai said Abram could have another woman more like saying, I love you. I would never stand in your way or keep you from getting something you want so badly.
I think that maybe she never thought that Abram would betray her by really taking another woman. Now she blames it all on Abram.
I think another lesson is that jokes can lead to something that really hurts. We often say things without really thinking about what we are saying. We are sure that it is understood as being in jest but then someone takes it seriously, gets hurt and then there are problems.
Maybe one last lesson is never have a goal that is so big you would hurt someone you love to get it! Abram wanted a child and that was good but he should have loved is wife enough to say, are you crazy. I would rather never have any children as to betray you and hurt you that way. You are worth more than 10,000 children to me!